Change

Hello and welcome to another dose of life advice from yours truly. Today's topic was inspired by a problem a friend of mine is having with a friend of hers. Change. I know for a fact that the majority of people don't like change. There are some people who love constant change, some who accept it when it is necessary, and some who don't accept it at all. What I have learned in the 17 years that I have lived is that change is inevitable. Because firstly it is fate controlled by God, and secondly, people do so many things that cause change in the world, some good and some bad. Ultimately, if you want things to get better, then make better decisions, and if you want things to get worse, then make more bad decisions. There is also the matter of people changing. Yes, its true people don't change, but that only applies to the traits that all human beings have in common. Like morals, conscience, and values. But what does change in people is how they see things from their perspective, how they express themselves, how they communicate, and in many cases how they treat their friends and family. Now, if your friend, just out of the blue, up and changes their attitude towards you and won't tell you why, then first of all, stop and review how YOU have been treating them lately. You never know, something you might have said or done may have triggered this change. Once you complete that first step, you either realise that you made a mistake and you try to patch things up with your friend, or you realise that you did nothing wrong and at this point comes the second step. Secondly, since your friend won't tell you why they've changed, keeping in mind that I mean change in a bad way, then you should just let them deal with it on their own since that is what they asked for. Yet you must remain the good friend, so if your friend comes to you just crying about the recent events that might have triggered the change, don't try to force out why they are crying. Just be there, for a shoulder to cry on, or so you can hand them tissues, or try and cheer them up. When they feel that they are ready to tell you what's been going on, they you listen, open-minded and whole-hearted. Just listen to them, be it rambling, complaining, sobbing. Just let them do their part. Then, finally, try your best to help them. Give them advice if you have any. Put yourself in their shoes, and see what you would do in that situation. Or you could share with them a similar issues to theirs, if you have no advice to give, to show them that they're not alone. But most importantly, show them that you're there when they need you. A friend will be there with you through thick and thin. So, don't decide to walk out on them during the thick. And my last piece of advice is to just let change happen. Nothing lasts forever so always make the moment last, and accept change whenever it comes your way. Because you never know what it might lead to in your life. Its an adventure. So take that risk and just let it happen. Well, I hope you enjoyed this dose and I hope my friend and her friend are reading this. Wish them a quick patch-up please. Thank you guys for reading and I will talk to you guys again in the next one. If you have any questions or comments or topics, leave them in the comments, or you can go to my twitter @nounouluvJB. Hue Mann, over and out!! ;)

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